One of the most overlooked parts of parenting kids from a trauma background is that you can't pour everything you've got into fixing the kids. If mom is worn out, burned out, or exhausted herself, she's not going to be able to help anyone. Self-care isn't selfish. It is 100% necessary and it's one of the best investments you can make!
Thankfully, I learned quite early on in the journey that a good massage wasn't just a luxury. It is an essential part of my own self-care and as such, I get one every month whether I need it or not (I've never NOT needed it!!) We also budget for it as a regularly occurring medical expense. Massage definitely keeps me going and massage day is something I look forward to every month!
I highly recommend it. Give it a try!