Thursday, April 22, 2021

Massage is the Best Stress Relief

 If you have never had a professional massage, you are definitely missing out. Massage therapy has been used for a long time for medical benefit. It aids in aches and pains, promotes blood flow to the mussels, and even can boost the immune system. 

Besides being good for your health, massage therapy is also a near heavenly experience. It reduces stress while producing endorphins that can also help with pain relief. Getting a massage is fabulous. I definitely recommend it. 

Thursday, February 25, 2021

5 Things You Should Never Say to Someone With ADHD

 Hello, I thought it would be cool to write an article about ADHD because I live with the diagnosis affecting my life in some way every day. 


  1. ADHD is an excuse to be lazy. 


Actually, ADHD has nothing to do with laziness. People with ADHD tend to be very driven in the topics that interest them with a phenomenon called hyperfocus. Hyperfocus often has become a reason for people with ADHD to become successful entrepreneurs because they can find opportunities where others don’t. 


What is more accurate to say is that people with ADHD struggle with time management and staying present when something does not fully engage them. It’s important to understand that we might need more time to do our work, or guidance to stay on track. When you realize that someone with ADHD is not purposely putting things off, it becomes more compassionate and less about placing blame on something that we can’t always control, even when we are trying to. 


  1. ADHD is an excuse for doctors to give kids drugs to calm them down!


I have had this one said to me, and yes, it did make me mad. First off, when used appropriately ADHD medications were a life-saving device, literally. The difference between being medicated and not was night and day, though at first, I felt it had a negative impact on my personality. For the first time in my life, I wasn’t daydreaming five minutes into class, and I could listen without doodling on my notes. 


Medication isn’t the only way to treat ADHD, it just has become a standard approach. I really don’t understand why people are so against medication for mental health issues but they are completely fine with being prescribed an antibiotic for a bacteria infection. Both of which treat an illness. 


  1. You’re just overreacting. 


Emotional dysregulation is a large symptom of ADHD. A lot of people don’t realize that this has anything at all to do with having ADHD. Low tolerance for frustration is more related to ADHD than it is to a mood disorder in people that already have ADHD. Impulsivity often can cause mood swings that can be interpreted as being emotionally all over the place. The good news is that this can be changed with therapeutic interventions but it will take time and patience. 


  1. Did you take your medicine today?


You really do not have a right to say this unless you live with me and I have trusted you to ask this question. In other words, if you are not my designated person to this task, don’t ask because it isn’t your business. Second, asking me this question assumes that my behavior is out of line, when I really might just be excited about something and I want to share it with you because I consider you my friend. 


  1. It’s not that hard to focus

Maybe that is true for you, but not for the person with ADHD who can still hear the clock ticking, the person next to them frantically typing notes, the song they heard on the radio this morning, or who is thinking about what they will do when school is over. Unfortunately, someone with ADHD has trouble identifying what to pay attention to in the given moment because so much information is presented to us at once. A normal brain has a better capacity to block things out than someone with ADHD does. 


Wednesday, July 29, 2020

Logan Utah Kitchen Remodel

Are you in Cache Valley and looking for someone to complete the kitchen remodel of your dreams?  Contact our friends at Logan Remodeling Pros. They'll get the job done right, on time, and on budget. Whether you're looking for a quaint farm style kitchen or an understated modern masterpiece, they can help bring your vision to life.  Give them a call at 435-246-4964


Once the job is complete and you're ready to unwind and distress, why not get a great massage?

Tuesday, June 23, 2020

A Patio Space For Movies

We love to watch movies under the stars when the weather gets warmer, but with warm weather also comes bugs. A lot of creepy crawlies and mosquitoes. The best way to keep the bugs away is with none other than fire. Fire can also provide you with some heat when the nights get chilly. Whether you go with a fire pit or tiki torches, the ambient light will set a great mood for your patio project. 

 

Movie screens can be made of all sorts of things, from white sheets and PVC piping to projected on a fence or a tarp. You could even hang a sheet between two posts of a patio cover. Patio covers are also great for providing you with some shade too. 


When it comes to the surface of your patio, many people choose to either go with stone or cement these days because it doesn't require constant sanding and repainting like a deck would. Stone pavers can get you a beautiful natural look for your patio. But, if you want a smoother surface you might choose to go with laying cement. Don't forget that you will likely need some professional help in figuring out how to slope your patio away from your home to avoid flooding. 



Friday, June 12, 2020

Self-care isn't selfish!

As a mom of some really hard kids...who are hard because they endured and survived many unspeakable things early in their life, I'm no stranger to stress. 

One of the most overlooked parts of parenting kids from a trauma background is that you can't pour everything you've got into fixing the kids. If mom is worn out, burned out, or exhausted herself, she's not going to be able to help anyone. Self-care isn't selfish. It is 100% necessary and it's one of the best investments you can make!

Thankfully, I learned quite early on in the journey that a good massage wasn't just a luxury. It is an essential part of my own self-care and as such, I get one every month whether I need it or not (I've never NOT needed it!!) We also budget for it as a regularly occurring medical expense. Massage definitely keeps me going and massage day is something I look forward to every month! 

I highly recommend it. Give it a try!


Tuesday, May 12, 2020

Remodel your bathroom!

Who wants to do their business in an ugly bathroom?  Turn that old dingy space into a functional and relaxing spa-like retreat right inside your own home!  Our remodeling design specialists at https://loganremodelingpros.com/  can help you create the bathroom of your dreams. Give them a call at 435-246-4964


She's Back!

The Phoneix is back, she's awake, and she will stand on and rebuild on any piece of rubble she can find. Sage S, you are a wicked, deceitful woman and someday you and your cronies will have to stand before your Maker and answer for the chaos and destruction you caused. All the other selfish, catty drama women who added to the stress level can join you wherever you end up as well. 

That is enough for me.  

There are so many other mean things I want to say...but I won't. Because what I really want to say is I forgive you, God bless you, karma can be a real bitty sometimes, and you didn't win. I'm releasing all the hurt and anger and pain and channeling it into bigger and brighter things.


Thank you to all of you for what you've taught me, for the good times we had when they were good (and before you showed your true colors) May heaven smile on you favorably and I truly hope your lives have improved over the past 5 years as your children have all come of age and moved on in live.

I'll now use the rubble you left behind that you probably don't even know is still there along with this place that once meant so much to me to send some linky love to feed my Parent Coaching passion at https://serenitylinkscoaching.com/ and help more moms who need my help be able to find me.

Peace out, peeps!